6 Wedding Myths Debunked

Posted on Jan 27 2015 - 8:40am by Ronnie

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As my sister Rachel prepares for her soon-to-come wedding, I found it important to give her (and all the other engaged ladies and gentlemen out there) some useful prep talk! We have all heard the never-ending list of myths about weddings from an engagement ring has to be worth twice his monthly salary to everything needs to be DIY and personalized (who has the time?!).

Well, I refuse to accept them, and I’m here to show you that you don’t have to either. Here are 6 of the most popular wedding myths that you DON’T need to follow:

1) The wedding has to be extremely expensive

No, no, and no. The wedding industry is massive and wants you to spend an unnerving amount of money, more than you & your partner make in a few moths of salary combined. You don’t need to go down this path. You can look for alternative options such as having a wedding in someone’s backyard (if it’s big enough), in a park (if it’s allowed) and so on. You should consistently be looking for better deals and offers, and negotiating down with relevant parties. We don’t all need an extremely glamorous and expensive wedding. These are your life savings you are about to spend on one party!

2) The engagement ring must be a diamond

Back at the beginning of the last century, the concept of a diamond engagement ring did not exist. You can thank the savvy marketing men of the 1950s (a la Mad Men) for creating an entire campaign based on the idea that you must propose with a diamond ring, one which must also cost
two salaries worth. This is ludicrous. You do not need to spend so much on an engagement ring. There are better alternatives, like those featured in this great article, which also points out why there is no need to spend so much on a diamond ring.

3) You must have a wedding rehearsal

Those of us living outside the US, have barely even heard of a wedding rehearsal. It sounds like you’re being conned into having two parties at double the cost. What is the point of rehearsing? The rest of us worldwide don’t do it, and we seem to be in a good situation during the wedding day. If you want your family to become better acquainted, have dinner somewhere. Why are you renting the hall and having the same wedding guests join you twice? This baffles me!

4) Life is perfect after the wedding

Nope, sorry. The opposite occurs. You will be exhausted, financially drained and realize that being married doesn’t feel very different from how you felt when you were dating or engaged. There’s this myth that once you have your wedding, your life drastically changes from day to night. It will once you have children, that’s when you truly begin to feel like a family, but not right after the wedding day. Everything will feel eerily similar to the week and months before, minus the stress of organizing the party. Now come other types of stress: moving, planning, budgeting, etc.

5) You’ll never look more beautiful than on your wedding day

Sure, you’re getting your hair and makeup done, and you’re wearing a beautiful dress. You will feel beautiful. But is that necessarily the most beautiful you will ever be or feel? Is it all downhill from there?? No! I know plenty of people who look a lot better now than they did when they got married. I know others who are embarrassed by their shoulder pad wedding dress that was so “in” in the 1980s when they got married and looks a bit ridiculous today. Did they feel stunning back then? Heck yes. Have they not been stunning since then? They have, plenty.

6) The whole wedding has to be a moment of perfection

Any event planner can tell you: there is no such thing as an event that goes through flawlessly. There will always be issues popping up, microphones not working, people not to be found and so on. It’s normal. You can’t go into your wedding planning expecting to create this amazing, perfect wedding because it just won’t happen, and that’s okay. Roll with the punches, handle things as they come or let your family and friends handle them. Over-stressing is unnecessary. Try to be realistic – take on only what you can handle.

Do you have any more myths to share? Do you agree or disagree with me? Share your thoughts below!

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  • Terry My Journey With Candida

    Some believe rain on a wedding day means good luck. Other say fertility and cleansing. I think I would go with good luck!!

  • mail4rosey

    These are all so true!! And I love that you included the one about not everything being peaches and cream all of the time. I know there are valid reasons for divorce, but I think so many people just give up too soon who really shouldn’t !

  • All very true. We did our entire wedding for under $5k (not including the ring) and couldn’t have been happier!

  • kayadeola

    We did our wedding for quite a reasonable price but still had everything we wanted.I do agree with you.

  • Debbie Denny

    Well, we just took off work and jumped the broom. Never had a diamond. Love my ring.

  • scribbleprints

    I so agree. Your wedding can be a disaster and the marriage can be happy. And some of the “disaster” moments at your wedding will be things you’ll laugh about for year’s to come (like my mom tripping while she was carrying the top of the wedding cake to box, it flying through the air, and our best man catching it mid-air, then my husband turning without missing a beat and saying “The force is strong with this one.” (For their bachelor party they had waited in line to see Episode I…I love being married to a geek).